Working Caregiver- Self Help for the Texas Caregiver
It's important to remember, in the service of others, learn how to access help for the caregiver, do not become a disservice to yourself.
The act of caregiving is giving of oneself to help others. For some this is a very natural way of behaving and responding to people in need, others may unexpectedly find themselves in a cargiving situation. Regardless of the circumstance, it's important to remember, in the service of others, do not become a disservice to yourself. Here is a place to get caregiver help.
The following topics of interest focus on caregiver help and caregiver support you need to help others. Informal caregiving is both a challenging and rewarding experience. Understanding how to balance the responsibilities by learning to take care of your needs and involving others helps to manage the natural stress and isolation of being a caregiver. Examine the impact of the caregiver role on physical and psychological health. Identify techniques for caregiver stress management. Have an understanding of the therapeutic benefits of humor.
- Taking Charge
- Maintaining A Positive Attitude
- Determining Your Family's Needs
- Dealing With Professionals
- Involving the Family
- Avoiding Burnout
- Practical Pointers
- Worksheets
- Assessments
- Determining Family Need
- Caring for an Ill Relative at Home
- Dealing With Professionals
- Sibling Relationships
- Ten Tips for Family Caregivers
- Assessment and Plan of Action
Caring For An Ill Relative At Home?
As a caregiver, if you answered yes to four or more of these questions you should look for help from a local support group and/or health physician.
Circle Yes or No to the feelings that apply to you.
1. Your relative's condition is worsening despite your best efforts.
Yes
No
2. No matter what you do, it isn't enough.
Yes
No
3. You feel as if you're the only one in the world caring for a sick relative at home.
Yes
No
4. You don't have a plan to be alone or time to be alone.
Yes
No
5. Family relationships are breaking down because of caregiving pressures.
Yes
No
6. Your caregiving responsibilities are interfering significantly with your work.
Yes
No
7. Your coping methods have become destructive: you’re overeating or underrating, abusing drugs or alcohol, becoming argumentative, etc.
Yes
No
Caregiving places demands on the whole family. When you have one person in the family who has special needs, others sometimes feel left out and that their needs aren’t being considered. Sometimes it helps to take some time and think about the whole family to think about how all your family members are doing.
You may want to get a piece of paper and a pencil to write down some different aspects of family life. Across the top of the page, make 4 columns. Leave the first one blank, and make headings in the second asking the question “Are we doing okay?”, the third asking "What needs changing?", and the fourth asking "Who can help?".
Now, below these headings, in that first column write "Daily Routines." Think about such things as Caring for Personal Needs like bathing, dressing, feeding, toileting. Maintaining the household including meal preparation and clean up, day care, housecleaning, grocery shopping, paying bills, transportation of family members, laundry, minor repairs. Ask yourself: Are you doing okay with these? What needs changing in these areas? Who can help you take care of these matters?
By thinking through these issues, you can help keep a balance and make sure that some of the important parts of your family life do not'get neglected. You can do this for each of your family members, or, better yet, have them think about how they are doing. Once you’ve done this for Daily Routines, do the same thing for "Medical Needs" such as: Getting prompt medical attention when needed. Having regular physical and dental checkups. Attending to chronic medical problems or special equipment. Then consider "Health Habits" like getting nutritious food, adequate sleep and rest or exercise. Fill in each of the columns for every category.
Other categories should include "Stimulation and Growth", such as learning new information and skills, enjoying books, music, the arts, or literature. "Social Life" which includes having someone close to talk to or joke with, enjoying time with other people, and developing new friendships. Don't forget to consider your "Spiritual Needs" like taking time for meditation and prayer, attending religious services, or reading inspirational writings. It's very important to be sure you allow for "Fun and Relaxation" such as having time for fun and leisure each day and on weekends, trying new activities which are relaxing, entertaining, or exciting, enjoying hobbies, sports, and games, and spending time and money for vacations. And last but not least consider "Work and Money." How are you doing with having money to pay bills, seeking public assistance when needed, feeling productive and rewarded at work, and, if necessary, considering new job options.
Think about all these areas. See if any of them are being neglected. Work and money, daily routines, and medical needs are all important but these are really not what life is all about. Check out all the areas, and see if you can strike a balance. You owe it to yourself and you owe it to your family.
8. There are no more happy times. Loving and caring have given way to exhaustion and resentment. | 
